I strongly believe that you need to surround yourself with people that bring out the best in you and add to your life rather than take from it. Ive touched on this before in a previous post in the form of a letter to my 16 year old self. Everybody goes through waves of surrounding themselves with the wrong people throughout their lives. I definitely have. I was in a relationship for a very long time with someone who was so negative it had a massive impact on my self worth. For somebody that has always considered themselves a positive person, all of the positivity drained out of me, and I only actually realised this had happened after I ended the relationship. My confidence and self esteem were pretty much non existent and when the relationship ended I was able to fall in love with myself again. Within as little as a week everyone around me began to comment on how different I was. It was like I had a whole new lease of life and I could just be me. Nobody was telling me what to do, nobody was dragging me down, nobody was there to criticise. I was surrounded by people who cared about me and just wanted the best for me and nobody else mattered. I then quickly began to develop a f**k you attitude when it came to people that didn’t have my best interests at heart. I realised that negative people had a great impact on me. Maybe thats partly due to my sensitive nature, but nonetheless, being in such a happy, positive and content headspace was something I now knew and anybody who wanted to disrupt that was never going to play a big part in my life again and I didn’t want to give them any time. It sounds harsh, but in the words of Kat Horrocks, it is okay to put yourself first. If you put your own happiness first, great things will happen to you and to the relationships you have with those around you.
WHAT I’M WEARING
I thrive off positive vibes and positive people. Recognising who had a negative impact on my life made me appreciate the positive people around me. These were the people who added to my life and my happiness. Throughout my life I have always been somebody that gives and gives. I care so much for people, I try to see the best in everybody even when it proves to be difficult; I have always been good at seeing things in others shoes. Sometimes there is only so much giving you can do before you realise that you deserve better. I can now confidently say that pretty much all of the people in my life give the same amount of love to me as I do to them. I never feel brought down by anybody, and if I do, I don’t let it bother me anymore. Negative people suck the positivity, happiness and drive out of you. And positive people are capable of injecting it back into you.
When you surround yourself with only positive people and focus on the ones that care about you and want you be happy and to do well, you will be much happier and you are more likely to succeed in whatever you want to achieve. Positivity is contagious. I can’t prove this with any scientific evidence, but I am gonna say its 100% fact. Trust me on this one. Positive vibes from all directions rub off on you and make you feel more positive within yourself and everything you do. If you are constantly being lifted up it will have such an impact on your life and your character. Not only will you feel great, but you will generate your own positive energy to add to others happiness too. Picture the happiest and most positive person you know and think about how great you feel around them. Think about how amazing it would be to feel that great everyday. In no way am I suggesting that you should suddenly start cutting lots of people out of your life. But if there are people that drain the energy out of you, make you feel low and put you down, it might be a good idea to distance yourself from them and see if it makes you feel any better. If you know people that make you feel wonderful when you are around them, try to spend more time with them and I can assure you that they will make a big difference to your life.
Have a wonderful day,
Laura Frances x
Photographs taken by George Walker